upgrade K8s dependency lib to v0.21

[wonderflow]

What this PR does and Why？

1. Upgrade controller-runtime to v0.9.3 which matches the K8s v1.21.x. Our old version(v0.2.x) matches with K8s version v1.16 which is already not maintained any more. The community maintained K8s version is v1.19~v1.21. There're potential security risks if we don't upgrade these dependency. Fix Bump helm.sh/helm/v3 from 3.2.4 to 3.6.1 #1972

2. Why not upgrade to controller-runtime v0.8.x which matches to K8s v1.20.x?

   • the controller-runtime didn't support K8s v1.20 until v0.9.x ⚠️ Envtest refactor, support for 1.20+ API servers (secure serving) kubernetes-sigs/controller-runtime#1486 . BTW, kube-apiserver and etcd can be downloaded from https://storage.googleapis.com/kubebuilder-tools

3. Upgrade crossplane-runtime and other dependency libraries to match the new version of controller-runtime.

4. Fix a lot of incompatible changes.

   • field Object can not be decoded in runtime.RawExtension, so we need to marshal it as raw bytes into the Raw field.
   • longer the timeout duration to 1min for apiserver and etcd to be started
   • longer the suittest BeforeSuit function timeout to 120s

5. Upgrade github action to matches with the new version

        uses: RyanSiu1995/kubebuilder-action@v1.2
        with:
          version: 3.1.0
          kubebuilderOnly: false
          kubernetesVersion: v1.21.2
   

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Merging #1985 (f46f312) into master (7a1f957) will decrease coverage by 0.00%.
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e2e-rollout-tests	28.71% <ø> (-0.05%)	⬇️
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pkg/controller/common/context.go	100.00% <ø> (ø)
...n/rollout/workloads/cloneset_rollout_controller.go	88.75% <ø> (ø)
...mon/rollout/workloads/cloneset_scale_controller.go	91.82% <ø> (ø)
.../common/rollout/workloads/delopyment_controller.go	77.50% <ø> (ø)
...rollout/workloads/deployment_rollout_controller.go	88.18% <ø> (ø)
...common/rollout/workloads/statefulset_controller.go	71.05% <ø> (ø)
...v1alpha2/appdeployment/appdeployment_controller.go	53.33% <ø> (ø)
...dev/v1alpha2/application/application_controller.go	81.81% <ø> (ø)
...troller/core.oam.dev/v1alpha2/application/apply.go	81.64% <ø> (ø)
....oam.dev/v1alpha2/application/dispatch/dispatch.go	74.50% <ø> (-3.35%)	⬇️
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[captainroy-hy]

Maybe this tool can help to install evntest binaries.

[captainroy-hy]

Great work! LGMT

[hongchaodeng]

LGTM.

Please write a doc to tell contributors how to upgrade kubebuilder and test environment.