feat: fall back to podman if available

[SoMuchForSubtlety]

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This PR changes the default host on Unix to podman if docker is not available, but podman is. This makes tests work on more systems by default without the need to set an environment variable.

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[SoMuchForSubtlety]

Any chance of getting a review?

[samox73]

We also need this, is there any progress?

[adzimzf]

up, I also need this