add OSX patch, plus adjust some dependencies

[katietz]

Fixes #43

Checklist

• Used a personal fork of the feedstock to propose changes
• Bumped the build number (if the version is unchanged)
• Reset the build number to 0 (if the version changed)
• Re-rendered with the latest conda-smithy (Use the phrase @conda-forge-admin, please rerender in a comment in this PR for automated rerendering)
• Ensured the license file is being packaged.

[conda-forge-linter]

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[jtilly]

Thank you @katietz for the patch. For me, this fixes the issue described in snowflakedb/snowflake-connector-python#1205.

[xhochy]

Thanks @katietz , I could verify locally that this fixes #43 The pyopenssl tests finally run on on osx-arm64.