fix lazy compilation caching

[sokra]

• allow module.hot/import.meta.webpackHot.accept/decline dependencies for lazy compilation
• fix crash using updating lazy compiled modules

What kind of change does this PR introduce?
bugfix, fixes #12941

Did you add tests for your changes?
yes

Does this PR introduce a breaking change?
no

What needs to be documented once your changes are merged?
nothing

[webpack-bot]

For maintainers only:

• This needs to be documented (issue in webpack/webpack.js.org will be filed when merged)
• This needs to be backported to webpack 4 (issue will be created when merged)

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