Refactor PrimitiveBuilder Constructors

[psvri]

Which issue does this PR close?

Partially implements #2054

Rationale for this change

Refactor apis to make a consistent new and with_capacity functions

What changes are included in this PR?

Removes capacity from new and added with_capacity function instead.

Are there any user-facing changes?

Yes

[tustvold]

Going to get this in as the potential for conflicts is high, thank you 👍

[ursabot]

Benchmark runs are scheduled for baseline = b2f0c65 and contender = 7670c5f. 7670c5f is a master commit associated with this PR. Results will be available as each benchmark for each run completes.
Conbench compare runs links:
[Skipped ⚠️ Benchmarking of arrow-rs-commits is not supported on ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2] ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2
[Skipped ⚠️ Benchmarking of arrow-rs-commits is not supported on test-mac-arm] test-mac-arm
[Skipped ⚠️ Benchmarking of arrow-rs-commits is not supported on ursa-i9-9960x] ursa-i9-9960x
[Skipped ⚠️ Benchmarking of arrow-rs-commits is not supported on ursa-thinkcentre-m75q] ursa-thinkcentre-m75q
Buildkite builds:
Supported benchmarks:
ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2: Supported benchmark langs: Python, R. Runs only benchmarks with cloud = True
test-mac-arm: Supported benchmark langs: C++, Python, R
ursa-i9-9960x: Supported benchmark langs: Python, R, JavaScript
ursa-thinkcentre-m75q: Supported benchmark langs: C++, Java

[psvri]

The archery tests in CI pipeline failed . May have know what archery is and how to debug that failure ?

[tustvold]

Looks like an unrelated failure, will retry it - https://github.com/apache/arrow-rs/runs/7971887291?check_suite_focus=true